When first starting out being a Wiccan it is a bit confusing. Often not an easy choice at first there so many choices to make
Do you seek a coven or just think you want to try it on your own?
Covens, especially for new wiccans, are hard to find. Normally they are not on every corner and just pop out, to you. Hanging out at magical shops and networking with others is normally your path Also talking and doing your research, on traditions and groups that teach maybe a 101 program,
If you chose to work it on your own then you going to have a lot of choices as to which books to follow and where your views are. There are many books out there that have information and ideas for you.
Most normally go for one of two books,” To Ride a Silver Broomstick” by Silver Ravenwolf or “The Complete Guide to Witchcraft “by Ray Buckland a.k.a the big blue book
Both are good work book types that give you information and allow you to work step by step to form your new self and new beliefs. The information adds to your understanding at a pace you can digest and process and encourages you to listen to yourself. Both books break down the information and also explain the why’s, how’s, and when’s. Plus both are workbook types that give you more room to research, study, and build on what the books have to offer you.
If you chose to seek out a coven, chose one that is good for you and that you feel comfortable with. You might want to visit with the leaders and talk about the program and visit a few rituals before joining and setting out to the path. Talk with others in the group to see how things feel to you, but remember just because they have their ways of seeing things. Let your self have your own way of seeing things. Question yourself, others in the group, and the leaders of the group. Everyone will normally be very open to talking about things and explaining the why, how, and when of things.
Listen to spirit and yourself, about how you feel about the group and what you find coming from the rituals
Coming from major religions is hard at first to come to terms to two things,
One being that there is no sin or wrong thing that will destroy you. After living in an environment that forces on you to do things this way or that way and pointing out that you’re wrong before you even begin your life. Seeing yourself as being wrong, the idea that you are not wrong that you are not set to go to a fire burning forever and worthy of loving of the divine, and yourself and accepting your self is hard to understand at first especially. When you have grown up in that mindset it’s hard to shake. Sometimes it takes years to learn to be yourself and to shine with in your life. Accepting love is very hard to do sometimes.
The other thing that I found is hard for new comers to Wicca to realize is that it is not just one way one belief that you have to hold to. While yes we have a list of beliefs and tenets of faith but we do not have only one way to Wicca. You get to choose which path you take, which gods you follow, and what type of practices from very active groups and practices that can be very complex to the very simple, and comfortable.
There’s an old saying that if you ask any ten Wiccans about their religion, you’ll get at least fifteen different answers. That’s not far from the truth, because with nearly half a million Americans practicing Wicca today, there are hundreds of different Wiccan groups out there. There is no one governing body over Wicca, nor is there a “Bible” that lays down a universal set of guidelines. While specifics vary from one tradition to the next, there are actually a few ideals and beliefs common to nearly all modern Wiccan groups. That a topic I’ll talk about later.
So as you explore your path remember two things: one, listen to your spirit, and explore yourself and what feels right to your gut and two, listen to spirit as spirit will lead you to where you belong.
I would love to hear from you and your steps in the beginning.
Lord Aeson Knight